Do I Give Like I Ask?

I had another parental inspiration the other day. It came as my son was asking me for something and I immediately said “no” without even really hearing what he was asking about.

The inspiration I received made me stop and compare how I was interacting with my son, with how my Heavenly Father interacts with me (a habit of mine).

I ask my Heavenly Father for things all the time. There is so much I need every day. Is He quick to say “no” to me? He is not. I know that Heavenly Father is patient, loving, and kind. He responds to my requests using those traits.

What traits do I use when responding to my son? Impatience, selfishness, pride? Why? I love my son. Why would I choose to be so abrupt and unkind in responding to him?

Apparently I have picked up a bad habit, for whatever reason. It could have developed for any number of reasons. Perhaps it is a natural response to his own personality which conflicts with my own. My son has a personality that is similar to my mine. This make sense, since I am his father and example. A great majority of what he learns is from what I teach him by the example I set for him. The fact that he has his own will, which, I have learned, I cannot bend, probably causes me to become defensive.

Whatever the cause, I am glad that I have realized how I react. Now that I recognize my bad habit, I can start to change my behavior.

This being a parent thing is such a great learning experience!

How Much Do You Trust God?

Here is a scripture I read this morning:

Alma 38:5

And now my son, Shiblon, I would that ye should remember, that as much as ye shall put your trust in God even so much ye shall be delivered out of your trials, and your troubles, and your afflictions, and ye shall be lifted up at the last day.

It’s a simple math equation. I have never noticed it until now.

(Level of Your trust in God) = (Your level of Deliverance)

That reads: Your level of deliverance from anything is equal to the level of Trust that you put in God.

In other words, the more you let go of your fears and prideful thoughts of not needing help from anyone, and put your Trust in God, the more He will deliver you out of whatever troubles or trials that you are in.

I read this to mean, that one of our main purposes for being here in mortality is to learn how to let go, and learn to trust our Heavenly Father.

How much do YOU trust God?

Fear is an Indicator

Another excellent post from Leslie Householder. This one was about finding solutions instead of giving in to fear. When she mentioned fear, it reminded me of one of my favorite quotes. It is from Frank Herbert’s book, “Dune”. He called it the “litany against fear“:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

I think of this quote often. It may come from a science fiction novel, but it presents a true principle. Fear can control us, or we can control fear.

If you stop and think about it, fear is nothing more than an indicator. Like pain. It is neither good nor bad of itself.

Here is my definition of fear:

Fear indicates that you are in a situation in which you are unsure of the outcome.

Fear indicates an opportunity for you to choose. You can choose to let your mind run rampant with thoughts of all the bad, and usually unreasonable, things that could happen. Or you can choose to let you mind run rampant with all the wonderful possibilities that have just opened up before you.

I have on several occasions explained to my oldest son that fear is exciting. This is true. Fear can be a great motivator. Fear is like putting your foot on the gas pedal of fast car and pushing it all the way down. This excites the car and makes it go really fast. This is neither good nor bad of itself. It is merely an opportunity. If you choose to do nothing (like grab the steering wheel) the car will careen out of control very rapidly until it is impeded by something with enough mass to cause it to suddenly stop. A better choice is to grab the steering wheel and direct the car where you want it to go.

Fear is exciting. If you choose to do nothing with it, you will probably find yourself huddled up in a blanket in the corner of your closet. On the other hand, if you re-train yourself to recognize fear and then choose to use the energy that it invokes in you, you might just find yourself doing amazing and wonderful good things that you did not know you could do.

What are your thoughts on fear?

How Do You See Life?

I just read an excellent post on Leslie Householder’s blog. It was about prospering in spite of the state of the economy. I love it when I find other people who look for the positive in everything, instead of the negative.

Every situation, is just a situation. A situation is neither good nor bad. It is only how we look at it that makes it good or bad. Just like anything. A hammer is neither good nor bad. You can build a house with it or bang your finger with it. WE are what make any situation or tool good or bad.

We view our lives through our own personal perspectives (paradigms). How life looks depends on that perspective. Our perspective is like a pair of glasses. If we have put negative tinting on those glasses, we will see things negatively. If we have put positive tinting on those glasses, we will see thing positively.

It all comes back to choice. It is our choice whether life is good or bad. We see what we want to see. We see what we (and our environment) have trained ourselves to see. If life is looking bad, or scary, or depressing, or good, or happy, or prosperous, it is because that it how you choose to look at life.

Life is what we make it. What will you make of life? How do you choose to see life? Good or bad? It is all up to you.

How to Wake up at 0500 Every Day

I love waking up early. Early for me is 0500. I do that every day. It feels great! Has it always been like this? No. My name is Jonathan, and I am an addict. I am addicted to sleep. Given the choice my body will always choose sleep over waking up. My body is naturally lazy.

The problem with having a lazy body that is addicted to sleep is that there are so many things I want to do every day. If I am sleeping in I am wasting precious time. There is so much to do and so little time. Sure my body needs to sleep, but not longer than is needful. God did not put me on this planet to sleep. Sleep is only necessary because this mortal body gets tired and needs to rejuvenate.

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Tagged again

I was tagged! Six weird and random things about me!

The rules are:

* Link to the person who tagged you ( Jamie )
* Post the rules on your blog
* Write six random things/unspectacular quirks about yourself
* Tag six people at the end of your post and link to them
* Let each person you have tagged know by leaving a comment on their blog
* Let the tagger know when your entry is posted

6 Weird things about myself, in no particular order:

1. I am a perfectionist
2. I get cold really easily
3. I am an introverted extrovert
4. I think we should explore the universe
5. I love waking up early in the morning
6. I think pain is good

TAG!!! You’re IT!

1. Andy
2. Christopher
3. Derrick
4. John
5. JR
6. Fred & Dori

Do not beat people with Truth

I attended a youth fireside last night where I heard Bob Millet speak on religious tolerance. One of the things he said really stood out to me. He quoted President Hinckley and said something similar to this: just because we know the truth, does not mean we should beat others with it.

The Only True Church by President Gordon B. Hinckley

“The Lord said that this is the only true and living church upon the face of the earth with which He is well pleased. I didn’t say that. Those are His words. The Prophet Joseph was told that the other sects were wrong. Those are not my words. Those are the Lord’s words. But they are hard words for those of other faiths. We don’t need to exploit them. We just need to be kind and good and gracious people to others, showing by our example the great truth of that which we believe and leading them in the direction which we would like to see them go.”